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With Valentine\u2019s Day just around the corner, we want to see those members of our community who are in relationships, in happy, healthy, and fulfilling ones! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Here are six common myths about love, and what the truth about happy, healthy, and loving relationships really is.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n\n\n\n\n

Myth 1. It’s normal for a partner who is deeply in love with you to discourage you from spending time with family and friends. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

While most couples who are in love enjoy spending lots of time together, remember that healthy relationships include time apart, and don\u2019t come at the expense of pre-existing social networks. It\u2019s important to continue to spend time with those who you are close with because every relationship brings different types of joy.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n

If your partner attempts\nto restrict who you can spend time with, this may be a sign you are in an\nunhealthy relationship. He may be worried that your family\/friends could spot the\npotentially unhealthy aspects of the relationship. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

By isolating you from\nthose who advocate for you, an abuser is afforded a high degree of power and\ncontrol, which may escalate to physical violence. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

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It’s important to continue to spend time with those who you are close with because every relationship brings different types of joy.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Myth 2. If there is no physical violence, I am in a healthy and loving relationship. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Physical violence is\ncertainly a clear indication of abuse, but abuse is not limited to physical\nviolence. Other forms of abuse include being forced or coerced to engage in\nsexual acts against your will, stalking, imposing an allowance or other means\nof financial control, bullying, or the use of threats to control how you act.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you feel unsafe in a\nrelationship, even in the absence of physical violence, the relationship is\nlikely abusive. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Myth 3. If my partner hurts me physically, it\u2019s my fault for pushing his buttons or not being a good enough partner.<\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Love should never hurt.\nAs human beings, we have agency and the ability to act decently towards others.\nYour partner can and should act with kindness, and work with you to build a\nrelationship that is grounded in trust and respect. Some abusers may have a\npast characterized by volatility or trauma, but it is important to remember you\nare not responsible for this trauma, nor do you need to tolerate the violence\nor abuse imposed on you as a result. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Love is a powerful\nfeeling that can be used to elevate your partner, making you both happier and\nstronger people in the process. However, immense love is not a replacement for\ncounselling or other tools to help a partner who is processing trauma.\nViolence\u2014physical or otherwise\u2014is never acceptable, and it is never your fault.\n<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Love should never hurt.<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Myth 4. My partner is jealous and keeps tabs on me because he loves me so much. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

It is normal in relationships\nfor feelings of jealousy to arise occasionally. However, concerns about\ndistrust should be resolved through healthy communication. Your partner should\nnever be checking your phone or restricting you from seeing certain people\nbecause of a delusion that you are being unfaithful. In a healthy relationship,\nif one partner is experiencing feelings of insecurity or jealousy, conversation\ntakes place, not constant monitoring.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The expression of extreme\njealousy, such as forbidding you from going out with friends or installing\nsurveillance cameras in your house, is not a sign of love. While jealousy may\nbe followed by expressions of sincerity, this is likely part of a greater cycle\nof abuse and does not justify the controlling actions of your partner.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Myth 5. We’re just fighting! My partner is only treating me badly because we had an argument. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Every couple has disagreements, and emotions can run high! While you or your partner might say something you regret during an argument, escalation to degrading and belittling you, personal attacks that are just meant to break your confidence, or threats of violence against you and your loved ones, including your pets, are not acceptable<\/em>. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

While all couples fight from time to time, violence in any form is never part of a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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Every couple has disagreements, but violence in any form is never part of a healthy relationship \u2014 even in a “fight.”<\/em><\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n

Myth 6. If I didn\u2019t love my partner, I wouldn\u2019t remain in the relationship. Couples stick together because they are still in love. <\/h2>\n\n\n\n

Emotional attachment and\nlove are different, although often confused. Love is respect, support, care and\nsacrifice. Emotional attachment is missing someone you have had in your life,\nfeeling better because you have company and not alone, feeling social pressure\nto be in a relationship. Love lifts you up. Love is a powerful emotion and\nshould build both you and your partner into better versions of yourselves, not\nbreak you down. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

This Valentine\u2019s Day, we\ncelebrate the many happy, healthy, and positive relationships we see in our\ncommunity! Healthy relationships are centered on trust, empathy, and respect. <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Happy Valentine\u2019s Day!<\/p>\n\n\n\n

If you or someone you know might be in an unhealthy or dangerous relationship, visit dixonsociety.ca<\/a> for more information. <\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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